sure!

the other morning, the little boys came in my room while i was getting ready and asked to jump on the bed.
i said, "sure!" without hesitating.
and it made me smile.

there were YEARS when that would have gone very differently. and, sawyer knew that because he asked.
we don't jump on beds. or couches.

i don't regret having that be a hard and fast rule when i "just" had a 4 and 2 year old.
it was my decision then and i stand by it confidently.

but i can change my mind.

i'm sure it won't be the last time!

this week, that particular morning, with certain BIGGER circumstances/drama happening around our lives, the chance to see PURE JOY on 2 little boys faces by simply saying, "sure!" to them jumping on my bed far outweighed the need to be rigid in my expectations.

{consistency is good. expectations are good. but being flexible and knowing when that is better is BEST!}

this was a victory. i struggle with this. knowing when it's ok to not be so rigid. i fear the chaos that could come down on me, our home, our family if i "give" an inch. i need to be better at finding the middle ground between the two things.

{i am reading a book called: The Whole-Brained Child and much of this processing comes from that...}