i think i get more efficient at doing things the older i get...
i'm more efficient at cleaning the house...doing loads of laundry...unloading the dishwasher.
and pat and i together are more efficient...at making decisions...or getting the kids bathed...
i just discovered something else we are more efficient at...arguing.
we really don't argue often.
but when we do...it used to be this whole big long process: days of being hurt and being upset and talking...a LOT...and apologizing and then slowly coming back together...and then finally we were "right" again.
the other night we had an argument.
we were both really mad.
we went to bed mad.
i hate that.
but we were both really mad and really tired.
and needed to sleep.
and it took one touch of his hand on my back as he walked past me at the breakfast table the next morning for all the anger to melt away.
{and before you get any ideas...it wasn't even close to that kind of touch...i was sweaty from running...and we were in the mad dash to get everyone fed and out the door for school...no romantic touches going on...well, i guess it was romantic because that one touch said A LOT...just not that kind...}
and then 1 email back and forth midday to explain ourselves and it was all over.
"we" were right again.
and things were totally normal that night.
we just don't have time to argue anymore :-)
6 comments:
Haha, I totally get what you're saying. We are getting more efficient too. Not much is worth going through "all that" anymore....it's funny how things change.
I TOTALLY get that. We are the same way. And wow, we wasted a lot of time in our early days! ;)
i wish i was getting more efficient at laundry and stuff. i feel like the older i get the more i have and less i can handle it. what's wrong with me! :)
it is nice to see how we can learn to let things go a little easier as we get further along in our relationships.
oh man...so funny and so right there with ya!
I love that! Maybe you could teach me. I feel like my life is a series of uncompleted tasks. I need to be more efficient. I need to be more like you (all the way around.)
I think it's the security that you find in your marriage the longer you are together. The fact that you know neither of you is going anywhere...so you may as well figure it out and get on with it!! Good for you guys for moving right on! :)
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