but the kids haven't even asked about watching a show for the last 3 days!
not once!
it's so nice!
and they are playing so well...and so creatively...and together.
{yes, they argue sometimes...but they mostly play together so well}
{we got an nfl.com catalog yesterday...they are circling the things daddy wants for christmas :-)}
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and kind of on a totally different note...play dates.
when rebekah started school...the whole play date thing started.
i had no idea.
had to ask moms of older kids what the deal was.
we have had a handful of play dates...over the last 3 years!
many times i have my friends over and usually they have kids of their own to bring along :-)
but just inviting a friend over to play with 1 of my kids hasn't happened very often.
maybe i'm a bad mom.
but it just messes everything up.
the kid that has the play date has an attitude afterwards normally.
and the whole time they are playing...i have to be "extra fun" for the other kids that are sad about the whole thing.
it's just more work for me and i have yet to see anything positive from them.
so far all my kids seem to play fine with kids their age...at church, the pool, the gym and school.
none of my kids are shy.
if i thought they needed it for some reason, and it would help, i would do it.
but it mostly messes up the dynamic in our house so much that we seldom do it.
my kids truly do play together so well. maybe it's because we haven't had play dates every day for every kid like some moms...that prevents them from learning to play with their siblings!
YES...they argue! and hit! and tattle!
but for the most part they play together well.
and i'm realizing how thankful i am for that!
i also know that as they get older this will change.
they will want and need to be with their peers more.
and i'll try to change with them. :-)
but, for now, this is where we are.
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ok. there.
had to get all that out before i totally change my tune...
i have to pack today to be gone for a week AND NO TV to help me out! :-)
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yeah, me too on the playdates. and i just always seem to have a list of things i have to be doing while the kids are playing, so never been able to just play with the people we'd invite over. one day i'm afraid i'll miss it. we'll see...who knows.
but nfl? i was like, nfl. nfl. nfl. ??? what is that?
yeah. i guess you can tell it's august. and i live in WI. it's not the nfl. it's just, "when do the packers start playing and who are they playing?" no nfl. just packers and opponents. and it's august.
but yeah, i was totally lost.
:)
Totally with you, on everything you said. TV time, computer time, all/any screen time for the kids HAS to be kept to a minimum for them to have good attitudes. And play dates are a complete pain : ) Here, if we have one friend over, ALL our kids are ALL OVER them trying to play and the one that had the friend over gets upset about siblings "ruining" their fun playdate. If one goes to a friend's house, you're right the others are sad while that one child is (too)happy or excited or snooty about it. Ugh. Easier to avoid the whole thing.
This loooong comment is to say, I getcha girl.
do you know that this week i was at the mall to make a return and walked past motherhood to see....NFL shirts in women's styles and MATERNITY sizes! the mannequin was wearing a Titans shirt and I about passed out. if only i had seen it 3 weeks ago while i was still pregnant i would have BOUGHT it!!! oh well...
I'm totally with ya. I have no desire to have that be a part of our lives. I think I did quite a bit of it as a kid, but I don't have a huge desire for my kids to be doing it - a least until they are much older maybe. My kids are so close in age, they can be each others best friends, right? I guess we'll see. We do play groups so I think our kids get plenty of "playtime" at those. Plus I get good time with my friends. Although, I then feel like I've totally neglected my kids for the morning and definitely have to have lots of mommy time in the afternoon. :-)
i so feel the same way! i am thankful to hear that i am not the only one because holly had invites galore this summer and i was having a hard time saying no all of the time! i couldn't figure out what was going on and i started thinking that i was just nuts! i let her go a couple of times and i couldn't stand the attitude when she got home. the girls play so well together and with the neighbor girl that we just stick with that!
I think I go on playdates more for me...so that I have some interaction with American moms or someone who speaks english...since that is rare and at other events where I see people I cannot communicate very much. So, it is more for me than them!
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